Excellent and very insightful. Keep going.
Well done on your first Q&A video! As a butch lesbian, I could relate to some of this. I still get pressured to transition at times, and when I was a little girl in the 1980s (before any kids were transitioning), I fantasized about it. At age three, I recognized that girls and women got a bad deal in the world. I wanted to transcend the female condition so I would be treated as a person and taken seriously. I was a tomboy growing up, and as I aged I realized I never wanted to be a boy. I just wanted the same respect and opportunities.
I’m proud of y’all for speaking your truth and sharing your stories. I’m reading up on all the articles about your project. Keep up the great work.
I grew up in the 50s and this wanting to be a boy to have more freedom is so true. My younger brother had more freedom than I and it was so unfair.
I posted before as Sue in the topline blog, so to differentiate myself from the Sue here, I am calling myself Sue 2.
Thank you for your insights for parents. I love the statement: As a parent, you're a shepherd, not an engineer. Love...not fix. My daughter is a person, not a problem for me to fix. Thank you! Thank you! (she'll thank you...now and down the road.) I'm so glad I stumbled upon your site.
Thank you for this blog and this video, your message is so important and I hope that others can find this video and not feel so alone.
Thank you for making this. It's amazing and humbling to see such insights and wisdom from such young women. Wishing you all the best.
Thanks for your insights.
Thank you for making this video and sharing your personal experiences. I particularly appreciated your advice to parents: leave your kids alone and neither encourage nor dissuade them.
I agree that overbearing parents who either support or oppose their child's declaration of their gender identity is harmful. They should defend their child at all cost but never encourage anything in their child's cis or trans normativity. Peer pressure is bad enough on kids.
You women are making a huge difference! Much gratitude and love to y'all!
Thank you for doing this video. I got so much out of watching it, and I am glad to have found you!
Parents do not understand this whole phenomenon and having a first hand account (or 4!) to draw information and your personal experiences is amazing. As a parent of a 17YO FTM what advice would you offer?
I’d love to offer therapy that addressed the issues you discuss and not focus on the gender.
Thanks so much!
You’re so cool! I don’t suppose I’ve read anything like this before. So nice to find somebody with some original thoughts on this subject. Really! Thank you for starting this up. This website is something that is needed on the web, someone with a little originality. Useful job for bringing something new to the internet!
Thank you so much for this information. I am a mother of a 15-years-old female transgender, and this whole experience has been very confusing. I know its hard for my child, but as a mother I am going through a hard time as well, grieving for loosing my daughter. I will always love my child and would never ask her to leave, but my biggest fear is that she regrets her decision when its too late to go back. I wish that she at least learned to experience her female body first, before rejecting it completely. If you could recommend any resources on self love I would greatly appreciate it.
I agree so much with Alex. I'm so lost as to what is best. I don't want her to have regrets either, We discovered her self harm first 2 years ago at only age 12! We were devastated. She said she doesn't do it anymore, but I still see cuts on her arm. I'm hoping with time and maturity, she will realize that she can still live and succeed! Sometimes I feel like she's given up. She is practically failing 8th grade right now by not doing any homework. With or without dysphoria, she still needs to participate in this family and move forward, her therapist and psychiatrist has told her the same thing.
This scares me.